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The Covert Killer of Relationships
How to avoid this pitfall and improve your relationships.
“Expectation is the root of all heartache” is a phrase not to be taken lightly. Often we feel like this saying in terms of romance applies more to the beginning of a relationship when we are unsure of how things will evolve.
But not setting expectations, especially with your partner’s time is something that should be considered throughout the relationship and to be very much kept in mind when you move in together.
When our free time becomes hallmarked by someone else and isn’t appreciated, a slow feeling of resentment grows.
Time is precious. We know that. We get upset if someone disrupts our time by being late to meet us or rearranges appointments. When people we care about don’t make time for us, we feel less valued. We appreciate it when our friends and family with very busy schedules prioritise us when they could be with their children or working on their new business.
When we are dating, we invite one another to spend time together. We seek to know if that person’s schedule and then plan dates around them. When we become comfortable in our relationship, there is a point where we start to stop requesting…
